Crossing over...

...So it's official! I have crossed over. I can't believe that I have joined the club of women (i.e of well-meaning aunties) who ask single relatives the dreaded question - 'So any wedding bells?' Aarrgghhhh!

I used to hate that soooooo much! I found it embarassing, and was armed with so many excuses, 'Aunty, when God brings the man, I will marry, Ah - It's better to married well than married quickly, etc. The excuses were valid and true at the time, but why do I appear to have forgotten so quickly, the pain and embarassment that often follows when asked that question?

In my defense, I mean well. There are 2 reasons why I ask them the question.

Firstly, I know they want to be married, and I've been praying for them for quite a while, hence I am eager to see how God would answer each prayer. Secondly, but more selfishly, I love weddings! There is nothing like a good wedding to foster good family relationship and have some fun. In fact, part of the fun is making trips to Liverpool street shopping for the latest fabric to sew my iro and buba.

But really, I find the whole issue of singles getting married, becoming a sore topic these days. It appears as though good men especially are hard to find, or when the good ones are found they take their time to pop the question. When you ask the single males they give you excuses like:

1. I want to settle down
2. I want to buy a car
3. I want to buy a house
4. I want a good job
5. I am still young (laugh , some of them are in their 30's)
6. I haven't found the right person (Reasonable enough)
7. I am not ready yet (This is even after dating a girl for 3-4 years)

Please how long does it take a young man to know that he likes a girl and want to settle down? I have been married for 8 years now, and I prayed that my husband would not be a time-waster. Thank God, He answered my prayer, 'cos my husband proposed after 1 month of dating, informing me of his intentions by the 2nd date. We were married 6 months later and have 2 wonderful children.

Comments would be most welcome from single women who are in this situation (of waiting for your partner to propose) and single men esp, who are having/ or had a dilemma choosing who to marry. Maybe you could help women understand why you take your time in popping that all important question.

On a lighter note, I can gladly announce that 2 of these relatives are getting married in July & August. So here's to you guys... Happy nuptials andhappy married life.