Women are from Venus...

We women are known to identify ourselves in relation to someone else. We are relationship-minded. For example, if you asked us the question, 'Who are you?', we'd probably answer in the following terms -

• I am Eze's mum
  I am Joe blogg's wife
  I am Peter's sister

And so on...

Looking at the blog titles of some females, you can see this happening also e.g. yummy mummy, naijamommy, naija wife etc. the blokes however are more likely to use their names or adjectives e.g. fineboy, toksie, gbegborun of lagos etc.

Women's natural bent is to nurture and thrive in relationships. We just have that gift. It is God-given. A lot of us have heard the song 'Sweet Mother'. One of the characteristics of a woman is to be sacrificial. Giving up time, effort, money to make others happy.

There needs to be a balance however. In our giving, we should also be able to find our own identity. Who are you? What do you like doing? Find some adjectives about yourself. Are you beautiful (both on the inside and outside)? And please don't compare yourself to society's definition of beauty. You can be slim, chubby, fair, dark, short or tall. Are you honest, brave, kind, gentle, loving? Do you love reading, music, mountain climbing, abseiling or scuba diving? Are you organised, a good leader, or a wonderful cook? Are you calm, always encouraging, cheerful, peaceful? What is your purpose on earth? What has God put you here on the earth for?
Your natural gifts and talents would usually point you to your purpose in life. And I tell you that until you find this out and start acting on it, you would never be fulfilled. There would always be that void, the rumblings, and the slight discomfort, which you can't quite put your finger on. This is intended to drive you to search for this purpose.

Some people are lucky enough to find it early, some have had parents who have helped them excel in their gifts, others have stumbled across it, a lot more are still searching. I dare to suggest you cannot find this purpose until you hook up with your creator - God (unless you are of the Scientology sect, who believes that we are descended from aliens). Go to Him; ask Him what you are here for. I promise you not too long after that (if your search is genuine), you'll find it! I can say this because it happened to me. That story for another time.